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Emotional Intelligence Appraisal: A Success Story
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal: The Secret To Enthusiastic Passion
I WAS AN EMOTIONALLY FLAT ROBOT
UNTIL I DISCOVERED THE SECRET TO ENTHUSIASTIC PASSION
High Emotional Intelligence Appraisal Saved Me from a Boring Life!
In the late 1980s, I was an emotionally flat robot. In the early 80s, I was the clichéd “angry young man.” In 1983, my anger came under substantial control. I learned to accept that the world worked the way the world worked – and it really didn’t matter if I liked it. My anger diminished by perhaps 80%.
Here was MY problem: Anger was the only place I ever felt any real passion. If I was emotionally intense, that meant I was angry. I never not passionately excited. I was never enthusiastically happy. I hardly ever felt fear. I wasn’t so much positively confident as I was detached from outcomes.
I was a martial artist, so it was easy to mistake it for a sort of “Zen-thing.” That sounded good, but it really wasn’t true. I was just sort of detached.
Star Trek fans know who Spock is. That was my nickname. I was Spock, the emotionless Vulcan who spoke, chose, and lived by logic and logic alone. When I deviated, it was “fascinating.”
Looking back on all the foolish choices I made, I can certainly see that my logic was flawed beyond imagining – but that’s a story for another time. What was true is that I was cold and unfeeling – not in a “jerk” sort of way, but more of a “nothing really matters to me” sort of way. I was driven by a few basic drives, but it would be a mistake to say that I really FELT those drives.
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal Can Help You
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal: Tony Robbins to the Rescue
I met with the VP of Robbins Research about some ideas I had to share. I received a free seminar for my effort, and I followed that with a trip to Cancun for Tony Robbin’s Mastery University. That’s where I first learned Instant State Change. Specifically, I learned how to generate Passion.
As a martial artist, I had long studied emotions such as Anger and Fear. I had considered Confidence as a sense of power that a martial artist develops because, well, he HAS power. Where I learned otherwise was watching kids. They didn’t actually have any real power, but by MOVING like they did, they created a FEELING of power.
I remember one day China was in the news about some military maneuvers. Some of the kids had heard about it and were practicing to be ready to repel the Chinese military should they invade our country! Obviously their confidence in their power was not based in reality, but in the way they moved and the way they thought.
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal: The Children Shall Lead Me
Children experience emotion in it’s most pure state. By that, I mean that there are few internal variables at work in many kids. With adults, we have so much life (read: baggage) that sometimes you have no idea why someone feels something. Kids are much easier to read. The logic of their feelings is much easier to figure out.
I started to duplicate the wonder in their eyes, and I found myself filled with awe and wonder. I smiled and giggled for no reason, and I found myself getting happier. Even though I was much too high ranked to be teaching children (by common martial arts convention, master-level instructors do not normally teach young children), I enjoyed teaching them as I learned and developed my positive emotions by emulating the most passionately excited kids.
Then I brought it up to and adult level, and I found that I was suddenly a much nicer fellow. I was learning to love with power and passion. I was learning to FEEL confidence, to FEEL enthusiasm, to actually ENJOY life.
Sure… I kinda lost that “detached Zen-thing” I had going. Here’s the important discovery: I had been living life in black and white. Once I got the full range of emotions going for me, life had lit up to full color! My life had been flat and boring, and then it became immersive and exciting!
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal: Understanding Your Emotion
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal: Emotions of Change and Emotions of Duplication
As a martial arts instructor, I had been studying the Emotions of Change for years. In the early 90s, I started to understand Emotions of Duplication.
Now I experience a full range of emotions. I get passionate about all sorts of things. I know what the emotions MEAN, so I can sort of “let loose” here and there and just run with it!
Maybe this part is a guy thing, but I value self-control. I like to know that no matter what’s going on, I’ve still got some measure of control of myself. One of the early fears I had with really getting into emotions was having them take over my life. After all, a lot of emotional people I knew were dominated by their emotions!
That’s not what happened to me, and here’s why: I knew what the emotions meant. Because I could understand them, I could perceive the meaning whether or not I FELT anything, and then I could let the feeling show up or not based upon whether I WANTED to feel it. Or I could just take the message, act on it, and let the emotion be a background whisper.
I could unleash Excitement, turn loose Happiness, run wild with Love, radiate Confidence… all because I knew that I had the meaning and message clearly understood and under control. The “clinical” nature of The Language of Emotions let me REALLY experience the whole range of emotions!
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal is pretty amazing. For anyone who is doing the “emotionless robot” thing or the “numb” thing, come learn what I learned and do what I do. Anyone doing the “bitter human being” thing or the neurotic, the depressive, the overwhelmed, the anxious, the timid, or any other thing where you live too much in a negative emotion, come break out of all that and find a life really worth living.
Emotional intelligence appraisal is so worth it!